The meeting itself
Jitsi Meet
The published load tests stand behind the scale — 1056 streams at roughly 550 Mbps for about 20% CPU on one quad-core server, a selective forwarding unit that relays video rather than mixing it, and Last-N so large conferences distribute only the most recent speakers. Screen sharing, integrated chat and Etherpad are documented, but I found no public information on breakout rooms, waiting rooms or per-participant moderation: on the public instance all users are moderators and the controls are described as soft, with stronger host control available only by configuring your own instance.
Nextcloud Talk
Breakout rooms and webinar lobbies are evidenced, and I respect the honest capacity statement — a private setup handles 6-10 participants, up to 20 without video on good connections — but the evidence says nothing about screen sharing, mute-all or per-participant moderation, and no adaptive-bitrate or bad-connection behaviour is documented.