The meeting itself
Jitsi Meet
The videobridge relays rather than mixes, and the engineering numbers stand behind scale — 1056 streams at roughly 20% CPU on a single rented server, with Last-N trimming for large rooms. Control is the weak flank: on the public service all users are moderators and the moderation controls are documented as "soft, and for everyone", and I found no public information on waiting rooms, breakout rooms or per-meeting participant capacity.
Nextcloud Talk
Breakout rooms and webinars-with-lobby exist, and published scaling is candid — 6-10 participants for a private setup, thousands only at enterprise — but the evidence is silent on screen sharing, mute-all or any host moderation, and says nothing about behaviour on a constrained connection beyond admitting video caps you at 20. Between the 3 and 5 anchors: breakout rooms without the moderation and screen-sharing basics that rubric level 5 demands.